Create your own.....H A P P I N E S S.....

Saw an article that caught my eye.... reminiscent of Dale Carnegie or Dr. Norman Vincent Peale.....
In any event, based on my personal experiences, there are a few pointers worth enumerating....
First of all, no one can expect to be happy ALL THE TIME.
Yes, there are some people who seem to radiate happiness MORE THAN OTHERS....
But you see....it is not that happy people are completely unaware of life’s down....it is just that they have learned how to balance the bad with the good....They seem to be able to cope better with anxiety and distress.
Unhappy people seem to approach life with a different mind set.
They often place the blame for their unhappiness on something or someone other than themselves.
They have a tendency to become cynical and seem to have problems...trusting others.
Real happiness has nothing to do with money or material things, but has more to do with how a person.... nurtures the mind.
Bringing happiness into your life starts by investigating some of the negative habits you have been harboring.
Once we create the habits.....the habits then....create us!
Some practical strategies are:
1...Take charge of your feelings. Assume responsibility for your actions and feelings. Do not waste time feeling like you are a victim; use that energy to take charge and focus on ways to solve your problems. There are options of life that you may not have considered...with a victim mindset.
2...Learn to deal with negative emotions...Anger and anxiety is the No.1 enemies of happiness. When they occur....and they will, do not deny the feelings.... acknowledge them....then step back and give yourself time-out to analyze, forgive, or dispose of the unnecessary elements involved. This will help you regain control of most situations; Patience and tolerance are options to negative mind sets...
3...Energize your life.....Research shows that when people lack energy, they worry excessively making minor problems seem....insurmountable...In Southern lingo....they make mountains out of mole hills:)
In contrast, high energy creates upbeat, positive moods...
Exercise is a way to make you feel better because it reduces tension and increases your energy level....If you put a little energy into motion; you will receive double energy in return.
4...Give out a little sunshine....Acts of personal kindness....paying a compliment....sharing a conversation....or just taking time to listen might make someone’s day a little brighter.
5...Put on a friendly face:)......Smiling, even when you don’t feel like it, WILL make you feel better.....Positive actions produce positive emotions.
6...Think gratitude...Count your blessings. Make a list of all the things you have to be thankful for: family, friends, home, faith, etc. Then write a gratitude list, which includes everything that happened that day....for which you can be grateful!
7...CHOOSE to be an optimist...Attitude is everything.
How you react to situations is your choice.
Optimists have a sense of control.
They believe that good things will last ....a long time.....and they label bad things as.....temporary events!
Psychologist says that pessimist suffer from what is called....
....”learned helplessness”....always expecting the worse.
Stop and confront habits that criticize, complain or find fault.....everywhere!
8...Find a creative outlet....some call it ’hobby’....something that you totally enjoy doing and allows you to be......YOU! This will give a reprieve from the daily responsibilities of life.....it helps to relive the stresses of daily living.
9....Be very....realistic....in your expectations....
Many people truly believe they can alter their unhappy feelings through the love of another person. It is totally unrealistic to EXPECT others to be RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS....
Yes, you can receive support and encouragement from loved ones, but....
YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON ACCOUNTABLE......FOR CREATING....YOUR OWN HAPPINESS!!!
10.....Take time to develop personal faith.....this is the solid rock upon which all....physical, mental, emotional and spiritual......is founded.
It is in this that a person becomes Whole and Complete.....and....Healthy, Wealthy and Wise....
11......Happiness happens as a result of being happy....to be YOU!
12.......Happiness is a magnet.....surround yourself with ...happy, care free, healthy minded....faith filled.....good-clean-fun....people.
12.......What or who you emulate.....you become.....Show me your friends and I will tell you who YOU ARE!
.......Bottom line....Don’t Worry+Be Happy! It is a.....Choice!

P.S. Nancy....keep it up....writing and.....Being Happy:)